Life Coach Offering

Seeking help for yourself or others can be very challenging but it is a huge step in the right direction! I have said this before and will say it again, one of the most important things when entering a healing space is making sure the person you are working with is able to hold the space you need. Asking the hard questions, though difficult, is so very important. While I do believe there is a space for traditional therapists, there is also a huge gap that I have seen and experienced first hand. My place, is within that gap.

I am a life coach, not a therapist. I want to give you the tools to succeed and empower you to take control of your life. I am here for as long as you need, although my goal is to help navigate your struggles with you in such a way that you’ll need to see me for only a short time.

Many times when you go to a therapist who has been classically trained doesn't have much, if any, life experience for what they are advising on. This can make for what seems to be a huge disconnect in what they are saying and what the client is or has experienced. It can also feel as though there is judgment which in return leaves the client shutting off or making it difficult to have a conversation.

During my mushroom education classes, within the first five to ten minutes, I've had many clients become emotional. After the class or their private session, they would tell me they got more out of our time than the year or longer of seeing their therapist. This broke my heart but also filled it. I was happy that something resonated deeply with them, that they found connection in what I was speaking upon. Within that, I was deeply saddened. I find it completely unacceptable that they have been going to an actual therapist for years, spending hundreds or thousands of dollars and not gaining much. This is where I started stepping into my power and opened up to being a life coach.

Starting in 2021, I was working with many different people from all walks of life and backgrounds. Couples, parents, teens, singles and ages ranging from 15 to 71. The majority of my work has been with those coming from sexual abuse and suicidality. In my experience, especially in these two sectors, there is much more to them than most people think.

When talking about self harm and suicidality in kids, many parents become scared when they find their teenager showing various signs and/or depression. This is completely natural. We are usually afraid of what we don’t understand. Then, adding on the fact the child doesn't want to talk to the parent, no matter how “cool” or close the parent may be, makes the situation worse. Many times though, the child is not suicidal. They are exhibiting this behavior usually, for many other reasons or personifying what is meant to be metaphorical. I am able to come in and work with the child and parents. I am able to bring understanding to the parent for what their child is going through, as well as supporting the child. Allowing them to be heard in the many different ways that again are usually scary to others if they are not used to dealing with suicidality and various behaviors within this realm. I am able to give them tools and other positive outlets to help with the feelings and transitions. With adults, I have found many times we are having all these low feelings due to the fact we are living a life that is not in alignment. We have lost sight of who we are and why we are here. Many times, as adults we look up and wonder how in the world we got here. To this place we are so unhappy in, feeling trapped and looking for a way out. I am here to say, there is a way out. Not by death but by alignment.

When it comes to sexual abuse, this is a very dynamic topic. First working through the abuse and the many things that come along with dissecting it. Then there are all the different ways the abuse manifests in our lives. It completely disrupts how we view the world, our relationships with friends and partners. I have found there is a huge link between those who have been sexually abused and also having alternative sexual lifestyles, habits and kinks. I find incredibly difficult talking about intimate relationships with those who do not come from abuse or have had a very ‘vanilla’ lifestyle. Feeling like they completely didn’t understand, nor do they ever make a connection about those have been sexually abused and the sexual lifestyle that is involved . I have worked with couples and singles in this space but also relationships as a whole in general with no abuse background.

Having someone who is nonjudgmental and very open minded can mean the difference between healing or retraumatizing. Within both spaces, there are many other factors in which I am very confident speaking about and coaching through such as addiction, various abuse and traumas, as well as mental health issues, sexual health including termination and sacred sexuality. If you have any questions about the areas I specialize in, what else I may cover, or anything else that may come up, please do not hesitate to reach out. I would be more than happy to schedule a free consultation to see if we or the person you are calling for, would be a good fit.

With Love,

Ileah